When a hobby suddenly becomes an Addiction

[Crafty Max]

VBB.....Brother, I feel your pain. The hardest part of this is admitting to myself that I have a problem. Example, today I revolved my whole day around seeing this one person. Now how pathetic is that....

bruce

 

[John Conrad]

For a while my hobby was entirely financed by
the distributions I received from several oil&gas
royalty trusts in an investment account. In anticipation
of diminishing return I am thinking of cashing
in my stocks in my RRSP account for extra free
cash.

 

[Helping_Hand]

Truer words were never spoken!

 

[Soong Bae]

Someone sugguest you not to read review boards in order to solve your problem, but i suggest you do the opposit, read all the review boards and pay more attendion to negative reviews, then it make you sick of it...

 

[GlenjaminO @ YouTube.com]

...and another thing.
I know this is a "review board" and everyone has shared some form of information one way or another. But to actually get all excited over someone rated a "10" or "gfe" or "gem" or whatever , then us all lining up to see them??? All I can say is "WTF" !!! This is not a criticism, this is just my way of saying that "I need to change".

bruce

 

[man demon]

thats the whole thing about this "hobby", its not about getting the massage really, its about how can i better my best or last experence with an mpa...i have rarely seen the same mpa twice...it usually takes me hours to figure out which spa to go to...i think at some point the whole thing will wear off...i use to do the same with SC, but i grew tired of drinking and smoking and retired from that...i'm sure soon going to mp's i will feel the same

 

[meg09]

At times when I feel myself being tractor beamed in to a mp...i find parking lot and get map out and have wank...after that its..."what was I thinking"

 

[ashers]

so, who were your last few?

 

[joshrocks1089]

In my younger days when the income was low , at one point i went completly broke (No money in the bank and about $20k on the CC's) . I was doing 2 part time jobs just to keep this hobby going.Was i addicted to the hobby ,maybe but possibly not . I was having loads of fun and here and there i stopped going to mps for a few weeks just to check if i was addicted or not .Luckily for me my income just kept on getting better and better and so my average visits per mp's pretty much stayed the same.

 

[??L0V3 M3 F0R3V3R??]

1.The first one u visit is the start of your addiction.
2.Like all addictions, some will go away (passing thing), some need to be managed(financially), some you keep coz it makes you happy.
3.watch porn -Masmassageplanet.netate 3-4 times a day randomly, will get out all ur "raging harmones".
4. Go to RMT or MP who are cheaper (like $50 x 4 visits , i.e. one per week is do-able). happy endings are good and there are lots of places like that.
5. When you get ur pay...blow it in the first 3 days on things that are way past due (CC bills, phone bills. rent, mortgage, hydro bills,) then keep 10$ a day for food. you will have no money to do anything else.
6.Stop watching hot chicks on the street for a while in the summer, put ur head down and walk. sometimes that helps control the trigger -predatory mode response.
7.Its not a bad thing, accept it, everyone has an addiction, women buy shoes, teens buy CDs, your boss buys cars (and jay leno too), people smoke, drink, geeks buy computers, collectors and people with other hobbies spendmoney on arts, paintings, home furniture, books, PSP games, watches, partying and spending money etc.... so if it makes you happy its the bottom line, but everything needs moderation. Sexual variety is an evolutionary need and its hard ...but finaincial ruin is the extreme. so use strategies to balance life thas all....
8. as long as you are not hurting urself, or any one...and ur just getting relaxation no one says its bad! its good for you! and safety first!
hope that helps.
9. But if you really want to quit....its like quitting smoking! keep trying a few times. eventually u will get it right.
cheers

 

[Hadji]

Moving to Ottawa is perhaps the easiest way to cure the addiction.

 

[decentg]

Hi Bruce,

Dydx and VBB are correct.

It really isn't easy, I've tried very hard the last year and I have broken my vow thrice, albeit, each time was many months between and the MPs I chose were not the best/prettiest/classiest, just something to remind me that the illusion is very temporary.

I don't know if you have tried sports/gym but sometimes that can be an equally good release in a positive way.

It may even work out to be more money if you have a trainer but the results and direction are completely different.

I'll let you know how it turns out as this is the additional strategy I am adding among some of the other good ideas on this thread.

Wishing you all well.

 

[Lorenzo]

Masturbate.
Your hand is your best friend, always there with no complaints or questions. Ask yourself, has any woman's mouth, cunt, hand or asshole gripped you as well and known exactly how to make you cum?
Jerk off and put a twoonie in a jar each time, give the money to a worthy cause and feel good about yourself.

 

[MisterTattiePie4U]

Hmmmm....I asked myself and the answer was YES on all counts

 

[Steve E]

Use it as an incentive to make more money.

This may sound like an asswipe solution but when I find myself going to MPs too often, I just immerse myself in my work to keep my mind off it.

Get a part time job in the evenings if you have to.

 

[wesley g]

Great idea flyingdgn; get a part-time job to pay women to touch you, lol

How about replacing your spa visits with: sex with your SO, masturbation and exercise? Improves your relationship, saves cash, protects your prostate and makes you look great.

Something that really helped me kick the habit was a change in disposable income. Child care costs ate up my hobbying budget. After a few months of no hobbying, it got easier to resist going whenever I'd get the urge. Kinda like when I quit smoking. We can alter our disposable income through automatic payroll deductions, larger mortgage payments etc..

When hobbying stops being your primary release mechanism, your mind and body seek out alternatives. Alternatives that can leave you feeling more fulfilled; physically, spiritually and financially.

 

[curouis]

The use of words and phrases such as "spiralling out of control" and "I am beginning to hate myself" are very strong and in my mind of concern. I suggest that you consider some form of structured counselling. I am no psychiatrist but I do not think that seeking guidance from a bunch of people who have admitted to siimilar problems is necessarily the way to sovle a problem. True, there are groups such as AA that seem to work on the principle of shared exeperiences and support, but at least that has some structured foundation.

By no means do I mean to be critical of the suggestions that have been offered or to suggest that I am "more holy than thou". Indeed, I share your concerns. In my mind if anything a person does negatively impacts their job, family, mental health, finances, it may not be a "hobby". This can be anything, such as sex, gambling, golf, or collecting giant balls of string in your basement.

We do what we do for a reason. What is your reason and what can you constructively do about it? Finding new ways to distract you or to mask that pain are probably a temporary fix at best. Good luck. Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss further.

 

[PICKLES]

Dear Dr. 1st 'n 10,
Spoken like a true Jerry Springer Final Thought...hey, I like Springer's final thoughts. So, until next time, take care of yourself and each other.

ps: save your money, get your rocks-off to this:

http://www.jenaweb.de/cards/fat-mama.jpg


Cheers

 

[Debbie]

Maybe it's just me, I do have a great grip.

 

[stupidone!]

I know how you feel. I feel like I am out of control as well.