Wife got massage from a male, after she said she would not, should I let it go?

[familyof7]

My wife and I have a great relationship. She likes to get massages and after we were married she asked me how I felt about her getting them. I told her the thought of another man touching her made me sick to my stomach and that I would prefer that if she does get them that it is done by a woman. She said she did not care if it was a man or woman, so she said I will just schedule them with a woman. Last week, she sent me a text stating she was going for a massage. A few days later, it came up in conversation that her massage was done by a man. I said to her, I thought you agreed to only have those done by a woman. She said, well there was only one woman and one man available and I did not like the massage style form the woman, so I scheduled it with the man. I said I thought you were not going to do that, she said, I did not agree that I would not, I would committed to tring to use a woman instead of a man. I dropped it and she said she would make sure it is a woman next time. I feel sick to my stomach to know another man was touching her whole body. Should I just let it go? I want to let it go, but it is not easy.
Just to add a bit. I do trust her, while I still prefer not to have another man touching my wife, the bigger issue for me was the fact she told me prior she was going to use a woman, so the fact she scheduled with a man surprised me and I felt like that is not what she committed to earlier.

 

[SHowdy]

I'd say let it go. A massage is a massage. It doesn't sound like she sought out to have a guy do it that is just how it worked out. It is good that you told her that you weren't comfortable with it so hopefully she will respect that in the future. I would just let it drop because I don't think she meant to upset you by this.

 

[Evearella Eves]

I would ask my bf to massage me if i wanted one, not another man.

 

[alicescooter]

You are unbelievably STUPID.
It was a massage. A massage!!! It wasn't like he was rubbing her with a dild@ or something like that.
You really need to grow up. Seriously.

 

[SUNSHINE77]

I do not think you are wrong. My husband is not okay with me going to get a massage from another man either, and out of my love for him, I respect his wishes. A man does not want to think about another man touching his wife. I say let it go since she said she will not do it again, and hope she respects you enough to see a woman from now on.

 

[Christinaa Cuddie]

Seems like you don't trust her? A relationship is NOTHING w/o trust.

 

[Poopypuss4]

You need to lighten up a little, or this won't have a happy ending.

wait...

 

[alwayswvgirl]

You've got serious insecurity issues.
A massage is a medical procedure - there is nothing sexual about it.
You are very ignorant and selfish.

 

[Zombie88]

Whether or not she views them this way, a massage is very intimate touching and I agree with you, she should respect your wishes.

 

[new date, October 21st]

Sounds like you are very insecure if you are bothered by this.

 

[Happy-2]

Chill, dude - it's just a massage. You sound like you are in dire need of one. And schedule with a woman so you can see for yourself it's no big deal.

 

[I eat raisins ALL day]

The man was just doing his job. He probably gives tons of women massages. Their bodies are like objects to them, like when you go to a doctor. I don't think your wife meant to hurt you, but what is the point in getting a massage if you don't like the way it's done? She even reassured you that next time it would be a woman. I don't think this is a big issue.