What is a good aromatherapy oil for family wide stress?

[dottie]

My whole household is a mass of stress and teenage/father battles. Does anyone know what would be best for the whole household. I know you can get plug in stress relievers for cats. Does anyone know of a human equivalent?!!

 

[janie]

If already read, reread as I organized this better with categories

hi it sounds like this is bothering you and is a big problem so I suggest attacking the problem more comprehensively
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ESSENTIAL OILS STRESS/IRRITABILITY
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May need more than just this but lavender is good for stress, stress, deeper sleep and irritability

look here for more (side bar--this must be real essential oil as synthetics have no benefits. One I use available at most health food stores and online is aura cacia

http://search.yahoo.com/search;_ylt=A0oG76udvyhMxCoADcxXNyoA?ei=UTF-8&fr=ytff1-&p=essential+oils+for+stress&SpellState=n-3055435333_q-5ALDjyf5fhS%2F2iY.cuJMnAAAAA%40%40&fr2=sp-qrw-corr-top

some others * Basil * Black Pepper * the Citrus family * Clove Bud * Eucalyptus * Fennel * Lemongrass * Peppermint * Pine * Rosemary
Also try essential oils for irritability


http://www.aworldofaromatherapy.com/essential-oils-irritability.htm

Some of them are Chamomile , Lavender , Neroli, but more will be found with searching the link below

http://www.aromaweb.com/recipes/irritability.asp

http://search.yahoo.com/search;_ylt=A0oG76PbvyhMBwIAju5XNyoA?p=essential+oils+for+irritability&fr2=sb-top&fr=ytff1-&sao=1

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DIETARY HELPS FOR STRESS/ANGER
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I recommend seeing the testimonies here on this diets affect on irritability, anger and stress with the
hallelujah diet that was designed by a minister that healed himself of deadly colon cancer and now hundreds of thousands more of nearly everything.

http://www.hacres.com/library/testimonies/my-thanks/1198 personal testimony on his healing from anger and irritability with this diet.

http://www.hacres.com/library/testimonies/my-thanks/1139 personal testimony-anger and irritability etc

many testimonies on stress

http://www.hacres.com/library/testimonies/search type stress or anxiety into the search and other other health problems you all now have.

what is the hallelujah diet is here

http://www.hacres.com/hallelujah-diet/explanation (also see the tab hallelujah diet


These diet changes are needed too I feel and that will be hard but be creative and try to get it done. Maybe a movie or book on the topic can help them see that the diet has a big impact on happiness.

I asked a girl recently who ate a whole food, vegan 80% diet what changes in health she noticed and she said merely I am just so happy all the time. When I began a vegan recently and started eating about 50% raw food, I noticed I feel happier as well and my head clearer. Many have said the same thing coupled with energy who went vegan and mainly raw.

Work towards that goal..summer is a great time for raw foods..start going to farmer's markets, health food stores and coops together maybe following ti with eating at a picnic table nearby or going swimming or something outside that is fun and relaxing and eat some of the healthy snacks you brought. connect good food with good memories.

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HERBAL AND OTHER MODALITIES FOR STRESS

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may find some help here

http://www.herballegacy.com/search.php?zoom_query=irritability

Also type stress into the search box

If using any herb only use in the form of tinctures and be sure they are organic or wildcrafted as the rest have little potency (teas are 2nd best-use distilled water as it is empty and absorbs more of the phytochemicals that cure and prevent disease.

One site recommends lemon balm. It is a good stress reliever and best if it is fresh..it grows very prolifically. I planted 2 little plants and now 2 years later, I have 3 big patches about 18 inches square each. It smells delicious.

for anxiety help using various modalities of alternative healing help also see here

http://www.holisticonline.com/Remedies/Anxiety/anx_home.htm

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BOOKS
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I also recommend you see the book 7 weeks to emotional healing which covers stress and irritability and gives tests to use in seeing which things would apply

Anger management books may be of help too.

Also communication books. Use I messages when talking and mirroring back thoughts to enhance communication, understanding and lesson things coming across in a way that makes people angry or defensive

also the book change your brain change your life may be of help
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OMEGA 3 VERSUS OMEGA 6 FATTY ACID BALANCE

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Also another healer of irritability, stress and all kinds of emotional and mental health problems is reestablishing the right balance of omega 3 to 6 fats which should be 1 to 1 and is about 20-50 times to much omega 6 in the us and some other countries.

If not a vegetarian, use fish oil --at least 3000 to 5000 mg.

with this also take in sources of omega 32 fatty acids and reduce omega 6 and bad fats in the diet.

Nearly all seafood contains omega 3 fats but these sources are several times higher than tuna..salmon, mackerel, sardine and herring. these best sources can be either canned or fresh -wild caught, never farm raised.

For plant source it is harder to find.

On of the best sources of omega three fats, as well as many other nutrients is this superfood---chia seeds often sold as salba. QA single tsp is about 3500 mg and it has little to no taste and can be mixed with liquid and many foods like put in salads etc.

Also flax seeds and flax seed oil (do not cook either--be sure the flax seeds are ground and put the flax seed oil in the freezer to store it.)

Also purslane and raw walnuts are high in omega 3 fats.

This imbalance of omega three to omega 6 fats causes chemical imbalances that can lead to things like depression, anxiety, irritability etc

Also greatly reduce or stop entirely trans fats, saturated fats, and hydrogenated fats. Reduce fast foods.
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GENERAL HEALTH PRACTICES
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Exercise more. Eat better, Get more sunshine and more sleep and rest and relaxation (lavender helps with these last ones)..
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FAMILY MEETING/FAMILY TIME

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Also have a family meeting and have a nice snack and a fun activity in addition to discussion. Pass out papers and have everyone list at least one thing they like and admire/appreciate about each family , a happy memory they shared with each person, and things like that.

Explain that this is affecting everyone and you want to keep to work on some things to lesson it.

During your family meetings or family days (which is a nice tradition to start..I used to have snacks, fun activities like picnics, art projects, or whatever you all like, with games, sharing time, a prayer and so forth to have at least one good day together..can also discuss one good or bad thing they like to see more or see less of and brainstorm or encourage more of the good things and how to lesson the bad things. Brainstorm compromises and solutions and get people to agree to try their best. Everyone counts equally here.

Be kind, be praising. Have the dad and teens figure out one common thing/activity/interest they both like and can do together every week or every other week or whatever and thus help themselves have at least one time where they have fun doing things together. Insist your teen do it if they want to or not.

The dad and child must agree that this time is to be off limits for fighting. Have them use a code word if one starts getting one towards going in a bad direction and that they previously agree if the code word is said they will change directions and go no further. They must both agree to really try during this time.

Having one with you or their siblings where you rebuild good feelings and memories and common interest might also be a good idea to enhance all the family relationships.

Also work out some strategies in advance that can be used when a fight starts like the person agrees to go outside for 10 minutes to cool down, certain words are off limits, self esteem will not be assassinated during fights, etc

Might even start a behavior modification chart with a sticker or star for time fights are averted, good feelings expressed, better methods of discussion used or whatever and when the dad or teen gets so many stars they get a reward that they really want whether it is an object, an activity, time together (or apart), a perk, not having to do a chore, money, or something they will work to get. these can be very effective..eventually when they are acting better the rewards can be cut back or replaced by praise or something more simple.

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INCREASE FAMILY'S SPIRITUAL LIFE TOGETHER

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You might start going to church together as a family at least a time or two a month and even praying together for concerns and problems each family member has.

Praying for your loved ones yourself can also help I feel (let them know you prayed for them or this or that concern of their and ask for prayer from them).

It is harder when our children are teens but even then things can be done. Let go and let God ..Try these things asking His help and blessings and continue even if at first you do not see results. He can make good come of bad. Worrying never helped anyone but action did..you started this action by asking this question and now consider those things I said even if at first you think it is not doable..

 

[Polly]

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[Speak_4_the_TREES]

Yes, try a remedy called "Rescue" get everyone to take it, including you, and the pets! believe me!

Now, is there a way, best time, to have a family meeting, a circle, everyone facing each other. Go around for each member to put out in words, their feelings, not what the other person is doing to them, but how do they feel! everyone listen, no interruptions, 60 seconds each person, go around the circle as many times as all the issues are in the open. Remember, feelings not what the other person is doing wrong, let each person own their feelings, express empathy! . The mediator take notes, write each feeling, check when the same feeling is repeated by another person. At the end, repeat the feeling, give each other as much comfort and reassurance, that their feelings have been heard. Try to minimize problem solving. Postpone that to another meeting.
Next meeting, again, go around the circle, expressing feelings, and not how the other person makes you feel, let each person own their feelings, express empathy!
Once all feelings are in the open, wait for the next meeting. If no feelings are express, then that is they cue to start problem solving. Ask for solutions, what is that person going to do, not what that person wants the other person to do. Repeat with the remedy Rescue, until everyone is balance and able to talk about their feelings, and not using the word "You!" but "I feel this, and that."
Good Luck
S4TT

 

[Tracy T]

Hi
check out this page on my website it gives a list of oils which are great for stress relief.

http://www.stress-relief-workshop.com/aromatherapy-stress-relief.html

All you need to do is to have a couple of aromatherapy oil burners around the house to give the whole house a calming atmosphere. this may help to relive the tensions in the house

The sense of smell can have a real affect on our moods so it definitely worth a go to help calm the situation.

best wishes

 

[woollysheep]

Lavender always calms me down, but if anyone hates this smell, then try ylang ylang. Dried organic lavender retains its smell much longer than ordinary lavender.