Is it wrong for me to give a married man a massage?

[Britney Carter]

I honestly don't see the problem here. He is my next door neighbhbor he's known me since i was like 5 years old, im now 19 and he's like late 30's VERY attractive(we love to watch him mow his grass because he's shirtless) two kids and he's married. His wife found out that we gave each other massages and im like it's no big deal we were just bored but his wife made a huge deal about it. I don't know if he wants to have sex with me but he does give tiny hints but i highly doubt that. What's the problem?
No im dead serious.

 

[No More]

No matter what happens, there is no way your massage will have a "happy ending" for everyone.

 

[Cameron]

the problem is that he's married with kids and he's giving a 19 year old a massage. your both not professionals, you want to do it because your SEXUALLY attracted to him and he's probably doing the same for you. thats what makes it wrong. would you want another woman more attractive than you touching your boyfriend shirtless. i think not. it's not that it in itself is wrong but it's suggestive just as the massage is suggestive and its threatening in a relationship.

 

[Lilie]

How interesting that every single decent answer to this has a thumbs down? Is that you doing this Britney? Are you in denial or just don't want to hear the truth? I know you're going to give me a thumbs down too so I'm going to tell you what's on my mind. You had no right to give him a massage. What you are doing is wrong and it will have serious consequences if you continue. Grow up and leave this man alone. Trying to seduce another woman's man is plain and simple wrong. He has kids for crying out loud! But it is obvious you are too selfish and immature to even think about the kids and what a potential affair and a broken marriage of their parents could do to them. Even if his marriage does have issues it is not your place to get in the way.. Someone mentioned karma..yes.. it will come around and haunt you. Wait until you are 35 with two kids and a hot young 19 year old tries to steal your man away..don't come crying to YA!

 

[Tess]

We have a nice attractive 19 year old next door too
Would i be happy she was giving my husband a massage ????
Like the hell i would
Your ass would be grass baby

 

[Aver_09]

from what i just read thats the problem =/ you seem to be attracted to em and thats not cool since he is married and it seems you got a athing for em'...

 

[odimwitdwon]

If my wife gave some 19 yo boy a massage, they never would find the bodies. Give me a break.
very attractive, shirtless, wants to have sex, tiny hints - your words
If its so platonic, why all the talk about how attractive he is, and how sex might be a possibility? Wow, what a piece of work.

 

[Martha Y]

you are the problem you need to respect the man even if you know him since you were 5 you are not 5 anymore

 

[Angel]

If u guys are being all romantic its very wrong becuz ur fooling around with a married man. If its a friendship thing then no. If u know he wants to have sex with u avoid him.

 

[livinhapi]

just don't get caught doing "it". be careful..very careful!!

 

[Eliasz]

I hope your joking...

 

[Kerfuffle]

The problem is he's married and that's pretty creepy.

 

[Sam Brentwood]

From her perspective you are stealing his affection, which rightfully belongs to her.

 

[Nina]

If you are asking, then you know it is wrong. Then you try to justify it by saying he has known you since you were 5 years old. Come now, that is a cop out and you know it. Especially when you say in the end you think he wants to have sex with you because he gives out tiny hints.

Are you saying if he gave definite indication he wants sex, you would go for it? Would your next posted question asking if it is okay if you have sex with him because after all, it is only sex.

If you feel this way, that is pretty sad. It means you haven't experienced true love. You haven't experienced someone being in love with you and making love to you. Sex does have some meaning, you know. Especially if he is married. It means a lot when he vowed to forsake all others.

Leave him alone and find some other ways to occupy yourself when you are bored. I am sure 10 years from now, when you in the same boat, as you are the wife, you wouldn't like it.

 

[georgetslc]

I can promise you this: That man DOES want to have sex w/ you. He may be bright enough never to actually act on that desire, but a husband exchanging massages with the cute girl next door implies a relationship that any wife OUGHT to make a huge deal about.

I admit I'm curious: How did y'all end up together, just the two of you, for long enough to get bored? That's not a good sign either!

 

[emotionalzombie7997]

We will see how you feel about this when it happens to you in a few years. Don't touch another woman's man EVER.

 

[Dueñita]

If another woman of any age came up to my handsome husband and offered him a massage and he gave her one too I would be upset too..ok,..more than upset. Giving him a massage is inappropriate to offer a married man. Do yourself a favor and stay away from this man. Your crush could ruin a marriage and that is just wrong..and he has kids too! Think about them. Unless you want to be seen as a selfish homewrecker find a nice guy your age and forget about one who is obviously taken.

 

[Jennifer Sparks]

Sending messages to a married man, and he's wife finds out, may cause a problem, lf l was u l would back off, he's a married man for crying out loud with kids what do u want him to, marry u or something?, or do u just want to brake them up? or maybe have sex with u?lf u answer yes to any of those questions then ur crazy.

 

[Lildreamer]

Stayyyy awayyy from him He is married.
Would you mind if your husband got massages from girls?? (when you have one)
Even if he knows you since young still odd. Okay tell me if this doesn't sound wrong
"WE GAVE EACH OTHER MASSAGES"
I'm 19 years old a girl btw and i think it is VERY wrong. :/ Seriously....Common Sense.

WOW it's sooooo OBVIOUS You thumbs us DOWN hahaha. Hilarious. Please do yourself a favor and Grow up and get some common sense. What you expect?? people to tell you "oh no that's not wrong it's very normal girrrlll" pfft not even. You should know better and I'm your age. That's just sad!

 

[blackpearl]

Stop trying to justify slutty behavior, your young but that does not excuse what you did. You interfered in your neighbors marriage plain and simple you know the man can see you have grown in all the right places and is attracted. When you mess around in a marriage you are hurting people (his wife) with your inability to have a conscience. You may not understand all there is to know about married life but there is no wife on the face of this earth who wants some 19 yr old sending her husband messages. One day you may be married and you wont be so callous if another woman sends your husband messages.