He introduced me to his friends but I haven't heard from him! Pls help!?

[Rhia K]

I've been seeing this guy for a bit over a month. He asked me out blindly after he had emailed me about flatshare. We didn't know anything about each other so it was a risk we both took. At first meeting the attraction was immense & we started meeting every weekend. On our 2nd date I was having a boardgames night at my place & since my friends needed an extra hand, I invited him. Yes we ended up sleeping together. My friends loved him. Earlier during our date he told me he'd been adopted - I was taken aback by the fact that he had shared something so deep. Anyway we've been going well. He met more of my friends the following weekend & again they loved him. In the meantime he had started a new job but hated it. After our 3rd date I texted him 'missing you'. I know that's a faux pas. Didn't hear back from him, assumed he had done the runner. But then I contacted him & found out he'd quit his job. I invited him for dinner & spent a couple of days together. During dinner I blurted out how i liked him & he took my hand & said he liked me too. He had arrived before time prompting my flatmate to say 'he's keen'. He even took me out to dinner the following day - I wanted to split bills but he wouldn't allow it. In the meantime he was desperately looking for work but nothing has yet materialized - this is the 3rd week. We had plans last weekend and surprisingly he introduced me to 5 of his friends on Friday. They liked me & even told me to visit more often with him. We've had a pregnancy scare & on saturday after freaking out a bit I texted him & he calmed me down - told me it'll be fine since he had only joked about things. So I was relieved & said good night. He didn't respond. I haven't heard from him. I invited him over on Monday (y'day) for dinner - no response am confused - what is going on here? Has he had enough? Am I being selfish to expect his company while he's struggling to find work? Thanx in advance for hints & advise!!
J.L.G - I had texted him only once and that was almost 20 hours ago - so it has been a while. The thing's that he's struggling with money...so am wondering if he's run out of credit and cannot respond. I don't know if I should contact him (text of course) or give him space. My friends think he might be depressed since he's been drinking heavily of late - though he's Irish - this is still heavy drinking. Something I brought up and he told me it's a temporary thing.

Sian - We discussed how he felt about his adoption and he told me he didn't have any regrets. I know we have moved very fast and I have told him I have never warmed up to a guy before 2/3 months. He's told me that I have made the right decisions so far. I am going overseas shortly and he's told me he wants to introduce me to a childhood friend in Dublin who will take us around.....also asked me to visit his birth town. You see where I am leading with this - he has been very transparent with me and I have been too. I have no

 

[J.L.G]

Hmmm...how many times have you asked him with no response? I mean if u only asked him once and its only been a little time than just remid him about your offer an say "unless your too busy looking for a good job just let me know". That ways its indirect. Then I think that you should just ask him if you two could meet up for coffee when he is on a break from looking for a job. If he doesnt reply. Then i woul just ask him straight out. Over text though! im not that bold. Haha