Poll Have you ever broken up with and subsequently made up with a favorite SW?

[Gulag107]

Without sounding crass, how does one break up with a sex worker, aka. whore, really in all $eriousness? ? And if a break occurs and they “ let you back in”…… then you have decided to keep paying for your ego.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Without sounding crass, how does one break up with a sex worker, aka. whore, really in all $eriousness? ? And if a break occurs and they “ let you back in”…… then you have decided to keep paying for your ego.

If you stay in the game long enough you might change your mind. Yes we pay them, and they are working, but they are still human beings, as are we. Chemistry and real feelings do happen sometimes, although they may be short lived, or not, or episodic. And if SWs are in the gutter, I am down there with them.

Staying aware and being open minded opens you up to all kinds of unexpected experiences. Here I am in my sixties doing things inside and outside the hobby I never would have predicted.

 

[Gulag107]

If you stay in the game long enough you might change your mind. Yes we pay them, and they are working, but they are still human beings, as are we. Chemistry and real feelings do happen sometimes, although they may be short lived, or not, or episodic. And if SWs are in the gutter, I am down there with them.

Staying aware and being open minded opens you up to all kinds of unexpected experiences. Here I am in my sixties doing things inside and outside the hobby I never would have predicted.

Chemistry being catalyzed by coin. A financially fueled fantasy for the buyer only.

 

[VinnyBulbarino]

Always appreciate words of wisdom from u Vinster,
With me it's always been strictly psyhical need, nothing else, able to keep it at that. If I'm getting close to emotional, door closes. not to say I'm not easy going and friendly though

Thank you Brother SM. For me it’s a bit of all 3, which isn’t the best scenario. But it is what it is, just have to exercise as much self control as possible. I think we can be easy going and friendly but also have our boundaries

 

[Social-Misfit]

When I went out with this semi girl a few years ago, we both know there would be no future about us. We also agreed not to bad mouth each other when we ended it. After half of a year, I found out she was fucking other men for a brighter future, I guess. I broke up with her a few times but she did not let go. I did not respond to her messages and she came to my house in an evening waiting for me to come out to see her. What a big mess. Avoiding to make the situation worst, I made up with her and thought that I shall let her to dump me instead.

I changed my attitude and did not treat her like a girl friend. Of course, she sensed that. We had a lot of arguments since then. Maybe she has finally found her future and texted me saying that I did not need to see her for a massage. Prior to that she was mad if I saw other girls for a massage. That was it for us. I felt what a big relief because it did not end up with a drama causing any effect on my family.

But looking back our dating days, I found they were very sweet and memorable. She revived my passion for a relationship - I planned for our dates and prepared things to please the girl. It sounded like I repeated my high school days courting girls. It was fun but expensive (we once went for a four-day trip out of the country). She told me about her ex-boyfriends and ex-husband and claimed that she was truthful to every relationship which never lasted long. I wish her well in maintaining the current relationship.

This, showing up at yer house, is what frightens me with these women. And you never know, it could be just a casual spa girl that turns psycho on u cause she has a weird fixation with you.
I never ever used my cell number, carried identification, always parked my vehicle out of sight etc. Just in case, even with the ladies I became somewhat comfortable with.

 

[startbeforeIfinish]

This, showing up at yer house, is what frightens me with these women. And you never know, it could be just a casual spa girl that turns psycho on u cause she has a weird fixation with you.
I never ever used my cell number, carried identification, always parked my vehicle out of sight etc. Just in case, even with the ladies I became somewhat comfortable with.

I know from personal experience that type of horror story. Just recently removed itself a bit. What a cause for anxiety. To long a story to tell it's juicy but too close to home. Yikes

 

[xtc27]

Ive had 2 reunions… my RMT, who disappeared & I thot embarrassed by us making out in the spa… then she reappeared, we reunited, resumed our naughtiness … that one just kept getting weirder, repeated suggestions we should marry & her tryna visit my home, eventually I (hopefully) just walked away…

Then, a case Ive posted about numerous times, an mpa I really liked… I decided since she didnt DFK, I gotta quit her & get a girl who does… but I kept going back 2 her , kept tryna give up… finally the DFK problem = satisfactorily resolved … then she quit the spa & disappeared!

I thot ok, we’re done. … Suddenly, she reached out 2 me again, working in a new spa… & got me 2 help out. Its been a journey, 2 say the least… she thinks we have some weird kind of destiny… I think fatalistically shes just gonna disappear one day 4 gd once she’s finished w this part of her career… mebbe Im gonna get a mysterious postcard from a hut in the Carribean…

 

[Darke Steele]

Brother SM, I had the same thoughts and my therapist helped with this and explanation. As men, we are natural born hunters, always looking for the next thing. We can have the perfect woman, but we will still be on the lookout and ready to court the next female that catches our attention. It comes down to discipline to stay faithful. For some men, they also stay faithful because they have alot to lose if their wife finds out (50% of everything plus alimony is deep, lol)

For those of us who hobby, it comes down to what void are we looking to fill. Are we filling a physical need, an emotional one, are we thrill seekers looking for that dopamine fix. Once we determine why we are hobbying, then we can start to remedy it (if it needs to be fixed).

Hope I’m not coming off as preachy/know it all, just wanted to share what I’ve learned so far.

I like to fuck. My wife doesn't. Problem solved.

 

[Darke Steele]

Never had a breakup and nor have I gotten overly involved. Although there was one that I almost saw when we were both in Europe. She was a bit evasive over there, which was probably for the best upon 2nd thought, and things have cooled since then. But no breakup or fight.

I don't try to see any of them outside a spa. Not worth it...

 

[hangul99]

This, showing up at yer house, is what frightens me with these women. And you never know, it could be just a casual spa girl that turns psycho on u cause she has a weird fixation with you.
I never ever used my cell number, carried identification, always parked my vehicle out of sight etc. Just in case, even with the ladies I became somewhat comfortable with.

Some really do have a stalker mentality. I had one mpa wanting to come to my house and pick me up for a session because I told her I couldn't see her since my car was at the dealer being serviced. She got all pissed off because I wouldn't tell her where I lived so she could pick me up.

The weirder thing was she was going to bring me back to her place where she would never accept money. And to be clear I ain't no Brad Pitt. Lol!

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Ok, if she’s a semilegit offering everything, obv that counts !

Depending on the spa though, it can b rare… JR, SL, Bellagio, Lavender, Superior Health… a few others … mostly no bj or fs offered… GW use 2b on this list but seems like they’re evolving …

That list of Semi that don't offer is getting smaller and smaller...

 

[Social-Misfit]

I like to fuck. My wife doesn't. Problem solved.

Nail on the head, bingo!

 

[eyeswideshut]

After half of a year, I found out she was fucking other men for a brighter future

If a spa girl is doing it with you she's doing it with someone else. Took me a long time to really understand that truth

But looking back our dating days, I found they were very sweet and memorable

I agree. Though it seems like once you stop doing extravagant stuff things go down hill very fast. These girls are used to guys throwing cash and gifts at them so it's hard to keep up and they know they can replace you in a heartbeat

it's an easier way to date in my opinion

Way more dangerous though unless your talking about 60 minute dates

She might come around, or not (mine didn't), but she should have the chance.

Hmm, not sure about this advice. Might cause everything to blow up if your to honest

u gotta no they don’t consider themselves SW

Yeah lots of cognitive dissonance in the business especially semi legit

 

[xtc27]

If a spa girl is doing it with you she's doing it with someone else. Took me a long time to really understand that truth


I agree. Though it seems like once you stop doing extravagant stuff things go down hill very fast. These girls are used to guys throwing cash and gifts at them so it's hard to keep up and they know they can replace you in a heartbeat


Way more dangerous though unless your talking about 60 minute dates


Hmm, not sure about this advice. Might cause everything to blow up if your to honest


Yeah lots of cognizant disorder in the business especially semi legit

It’s a real divide tho… most semilegit girls nvr gonna work @ holistic spa… in fact, I’ve heard semilegit gals disparage full service ones… & there’s a subgroup, “persuadable” SL (semilegit) girls who actually do bj & fs w some guys… THEY nvr work @ holistic spas either!

 

[startbeforeIfinish]

If a spa girl is doing it with you she's doing it with someone else. Took me a long time to really understand that truth


I agree. Though it seems like once you stop doing extravagant stuff things go down hill very fast. These girls are used to guys throwing cash and gifts at them so it's hard to keep up and they know they can replace you in a heartbeat


Way more dangerous though unless your talking about 60 minute dates


Hmm, not sure about this advice. Might cause everything to blow up if your to honest


Yeah lots of cognizant disorder in the business especially semi legit

So true. With regulars I have to be on my toes. Best not to give them anything, they may like you that day or two. As with most people it turns into "what have you done for me lately". Everybody says it gets better with regulars I say not necessarily. I'm no strict rule about being nice but as long as I know the rules it is a bit better. Fairing a bit better these days

 

[eyeswideshut]

some semilegit gals actually do bj & fs with some guys but disparage fs gals and would never work at a holistic spa

(spelling/grammar/word corrections mine )

That's almost a textbook definition of cognitive dissonance (I accidentally called it a disorder and cognizant )

Not slamming mpas as we all do it somewhat but they do display it more than average imo

On that note, who are these girls at SL?

 

[eyeswideshut]

So true. With regulars I have to be on my toes. Best not to give them anything, they may like you that day or two. As with most people it turns into "what have you done for me lately". Everybody says it gets better with regulars I say not necessarily. I'm no strict rule about being nice but as long as I know the rules it is a bit better. Fairing a bit better these days

In my experience it usually gets better with regulars (sometimes way better) then plateaus and finally a crash-and-burn. By that I don't mean there has to be a conflict, just that it tends to end way faster than it began (ghosting seems the popular choice)

As you say, better to manage the closeness. Maybe more than 'not give them anything' but always aware of what you are giving and never 'too much'

 

[startbeforeIfinish]

In my experience it usually gets better with regulars (sometimes way better) then plateaus and finally a crash-and-burn. By that I don't mean there has to be a conflict, just that it tends to end way faster than it began (ghosting seems the popular choice)

As you say, better to manage the closeness. Maybe more than 'not give them anything' but always aware of what you are giving and never 'too much'

I feel the same way exactly. Not that I'm calling them selfish it's just human nature. Give a ball player a big contract and see what happens. I feel lately my main relationship is more substantial and solid I'm sure it's just as possibly ephemeral. Do enjoy it though.

 

[xtc27]

(spelling/grammar/word corrections mine )

That's almost a textbook definition of cognizant dissonance (I accidentally called it a disorder )

Not slamming mpas as we all do it somewhat but they do display it more than average imo

On that note, who are these girls at SL?

Persuadable semilegit gals? … most of ‘m already been outed in a few reviews… if yer serious (emojis laffing suggests otherwise) DM me…

 

[aa84aa]

In my own experiences on this topic, found it boils down to several things:

1. Paid or unpaid.
2. Mental health & stability.
3. Realistic expectations.
4. Someone better or shift in personal life

With the girls seen over years, as mentioned in the threads, you do develop a connection and rapport, usually leading to heightened experiences in services offered, outside the spa interactions, and ongoing communication.

The line for me that is crossed that shows whether it's of substance, is when you pay or not. You'll pay for the room fee, but aren't tipping for what happens in room. You might think that's bullshit! but have seen several girls where no money is exchanged in room. How does this happen? One day, the girl says, I can't charge you anymore, or says your money's no good here, or places the money back into your pants. A line's been crossed, and she knows you aren't just a customer.

Some aren't in the best mental health, or stable. At the worst have experienced girls who are most likely bipolar. When they're manic, you can have some of the best experiences you've ever had at a spa in every which way. When they're depressed, you can see and experience vindictive, jealous, immature, and risky behaviour.

I've had one have realistic expectations. We obviously met at a spa. Given that context, we are both often seeing other people. Why would we be exclusive? She's seeing dozens of guys a week. She has a preference for her to take care of my needs more often, or exclusively. But knows that variety is the spice. She'll up her game, and soon, you're enjoying things with her that you don't with others.

In moving on, from her ending things for a myriad of reasons, or things have changed in your own circumstances, at times finding someone younger and hotter. Clearly nothing lasts forever, and what you experienced when the curtain temporarily opened, is a good memory.

As time passes, circumstances can also change where you connect again. When that's happened in the past, it's either cold and professional, or like putting on an old comfortable pair of shoes. Often that re-connection has happened as a walk-in to a spa, and discovering she's there.