Did a massage leave me gay?

[Morgan]

Okay, I know a massage cannot leave me "gay" but how about confused? I just came home from a massage and I don't know if I should consider what happened as "taken advantage" of or hit on.

I usually get a massage at a nice day spa here in ATL and my usual massuese was not in. Instead, I get this guy who is about my age (24) and he seemed fairly gay - sorry, he just put off that aura. Anyway, during the massage, his hands went unusually close to my you know what and spent a little extra time on my rear. The thing is, I got a rise from it and he seemed to notice as at both locations he asked me if that felt good. I answered yes to both and he went a little further on both. At the end of the massage and after he covered me up, he gave me a slight kiss (completely caught me off guard) and left his number on my top of my clothes.

I'm fairly muscular (cut, not thick), considered handsome and "cute", and maybe even metro as I regularly wax basically from my chest all the way down and get manicures and pedicures with clear polish. I never felt this led to assumptions I was gay though. The day spa is considered high end and I never expected this kind of stuff to happen here.

The dilemna - I enjoyed it and have replayed this in my mind often and wish I had kissed him back. I've never thought I would be considered gay before. I always have a girlfriend, etc... Now, I don't know. I don't know if I should even tell this girl that I just started dating about this? Because of what happened and my reactions, I know wonder if I'm really gay or that was just some arousal from the massage? Help please?
#$^ - I threw away his number immediately out of embarrassment but when I got home, I scheduled another appointment and requested him instead of my regular masseuse...

 

[zerojohnnyx]

If you are having some doubts about your sexuality it may not be fair to blame this all on the masseuse. (Not saying you are.) I'm sure he did know what he was doing , thought you were cute and he was trying to give you a hard on. You replaying it in your mind and wanting to kiss him back is another thing. It's possible you are just "curious". Maybe you'd like to try it and if it's not right for then it's not for you. With your current girl you are seeing , I always think being honest is the best thing to be. You just never know. Maybe she thinks that sort of thing is hot. It's never good to keep things bottled in. Just be courteous to her feeling s if you do decide to tell her.

 

[Kris]

you're a flaming faggot.

duh

you should have pulled down the towel and told him to stick it in your tight pink asshole

 

[#$^!#^&!]

Don't fret. If it's the first time that you've ever really wondered about your sexuality i'm sure there's nothing going on on that side of the fence, lol.
It was most likely from the massage feeling laid back errm, Go back!!! =D
See what happens. Or like.. call him.

 

[chanhe25]

I don't think you are gay.

What happened is a normal physical reaction, some people are more sensitive to certain things, such as touch. After it happened, you probably got all flustered and confused, which led to you question your sexuality.

Just a guess.

 

[rachelle_inhighheels]

Simple and easy answer... If you enjoyed the first time, go back for a repeat performance, and maybe even more will follow...
Rachelle In High Heels

 

[purplefruit17]

First of all, that's kind of hot. But it could be a lot of different things. I am not too into labels. I mean a straight man can like experimenting with other men and not be gay. Some people are sexually attracted to animals (not me but...) so don't let what you're attracted to define you.

But I think of you're into it and can't stop thinking about it.. you kinda liked it. But I could argue that his hands felt good and you got horny, not because he was a man, but just him rubbing you made you feel ... excited.

So if you really liked it, and were into it, call him and just experiment a little. As long as you aren't dating someone right now, I don't see anything wrong with it. So have fun with him, and if it works, then it will. But it's better than always wondering

P.S. this sounds like a total porno lol

 

[kdr_cmt]

Yeah I think you're totally making the whole story up to excuse yourself for feelings you are experiencing. Nothing like laying the blame on someone else, is it?

 

[DavoJo]

Gay, possibly. Bisexual, more likely. Though you know, it could just be simple curiosity.

I don't he was trying to take advantage of you, but he definitely was hitting on you.

If you're single and interested in experimenting with this, then why not call him? You can always back out at any time you wish. However, if you don't feel comfortable with it, then just leave it in the past and forget about it.

"I don't know if I should even tell this girl that I just started dating about this?"
-- You've got to choose either him or her. You can't have both. It wouldn't be fair to either of them.

 

[fyou6382]

Okay just two questions.
Do you fantasize about sex with men?
Do you like sex with men?
If you fantasize that is one thing. If you actually do then you are gay.

 

[foryourconsideration]

you're bi-curious, don't panic, many men have thoughts such as yours. If these thoughts are frequent, then might want to engage in them and see where it takes you

 

[JackNapier092]

You're missing the real question here. Look, if you wanted to kiss him back, then you're obviously attracted to men. NO QUESTION. You are....I know that's hard to swallow at first..but it's true. There is no straight man in the world that would want to willingly kiss a man like that....that's no friendship thing.

Here's the real question man: Are you/were you ever attracted to women? Please don't listen to any of the people on here that say Bisexuality isn't real. It is very real (I'm one of many living examples). So did you enjoy sex with your girlfriend until this happened? If yes, then you're not gay. You're bi/bicurious. If you're not sure...then you need to figure it out. But honestly man, there is a great chance that you're bisexual...don't deny it or reject it because society doesn't recognize it.

And about the whole metro thing: Fuck that. Sexuality and demeanor/lifestyle have nothing to do with eachother. There are gay football players and straight playwrights...so you'll never get anywhere with stereotypes. You could be the weight lifting champion of the world and still be gay.

Just figure out what your sexuality is..don't worry about the society details. You really need to think: Did you question your sexuality or ever feel attracted to men before this occurance? Or did this massage really awaken everything?

Best of luck

 

[citrine_dream]

A good masseuse that knows what he/she is doing will not have a hard time "getting a rise" out of a male client. At the very least it is unprofessional what he did.

I would try to sort things out in your head a bit more before telling the GF. I don't really think this situation counts as "cheating", and telling her about it (unless you decide that you want to do more than just THINK about your curiosity) will just hurt her feelings and make her confused. It's also possible that you are bi, and there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[future]

Uh, I'm guessing?

 

[michelle]

wow some Professional place you go to

 

[John]

My honest opinion, you have in front of you, the road to become a degenerate, enjoying sex like animals do, or think about what you have done (if your dad was in the room, would you be proud or ashamed?), recognize ou let the thing go beyond th limit and it was a mistake. Never repeat it again.

You will have to decide. I believe you had a propensity to be very vane, superficial and the nail polishing and extreme care presented to yourself it's just that: "extreme". That was your bate for yourself.

Think about this: if you are married, would you tell your wife this? Would you be proud of it? Why not? There is your answer.